The Fireball Perspective!!

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SPEAKER_00 0:00

This is Brendan Stacy with Let's Wind with Brendan Stacy. We're back for another episode. And today I want to talk about perspective. And I think what hit me, we have a resident where I worked who just turned 90. And she's always worried about who's that? How old is she? And this other person happens to be 80, and she's like, oh, she's young. So to think an 80-year-old is young. Yeah. Yeah, if you're older than 80, you're gonna think it's young. And I remember being a teenager thinking 30-year-old men were nasty. Like they're so old. And now it's like 30 is a baby.

SPEAKER_01 0:29

30 is a baby to us now. Like we say all the time, how do we get here?

SPEAKER_00 0:33

I don't know.

SPEAKER_01 0:34

How do we get here? It's just insane.

SPEAKER_00 0:37

It's shocking. It's like we've woke up that many mornings, 365 days a year, all these years.

SPEAKER_01 0:43

I know. It baffles me like how old we are, but also how your perspective changes.

SPEAKER_00 0:49

Oh, it does.

SPEAKER_01 0:50

It does. It changes a lot in stages of your life. You know, I mean, I might feel a way about something nowadays that I didn't feel a way about right back then, and vice versa.

SPEAKER_00 1:00

What hit me, we watched Romeo and Michelle's class reunion the other night. Oh, that's one thing. Stacy and I didn't go to high school together. We met after the fact. Right. But I have a friend that I went to high school with who wasn't interested in the reunions. And it was long after high school. I didn't realize her high school years weren't that great, whereas mine were. And even though y'all were best friends, like always together, you didn't realize she didn't love it as much as I did. Yeah. But she was smart and she was bigger than high school. I think she just wanted to get out of there. Whereas I was living for every day, loving it.

SPEAKER_01 1:28

And I I think that's how when Scotty was here, that's one of the things he said that that was the best days of his life. I mean, he's only 30. You know, so so far out of those 18, those last few before his twenties were the best years of his life. Now that we're 50, where's the best years of our life?

SPEAKER_00 1:44

I know well, perspectively. Maybe we haven't had them yet. Maybe they're still coming. I mean, don't get me wrong, I enjoyed my kids when they were little. I enjoyed my time with Scott while he was here. There were, you know, there's a lot of good times, and maybe there's more to be had. When I think of perspective, I think my younger years, mainly my high school years, which were my formative years. I think back to then and I think of all these people that were around me that seemed so old. And, you know, even the actors and actresses that I liked in the movies of the 80s, they're all dying off now.

SPEAKER_01 2:12

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 2:12

And that shocks me.

SPEAKER_01 2:13

It just, it's another one of those. We're old. We're just old. We have oldism. I it still baffles me. I'm still just perplexed. First of all, we made it. We're here.

SPEAKER_00 2:25

We are here. We're still kicking. There's I know. There's people I know that, you know, they're young and they listen to other podcasts, which they should only be listening to us, but then they're like, oh, I like horror too. Did you ever hear the Amityville Horror House? I'm like, are you kidding me? And in my head, I think everybody knows about the Amityville Horror House. But then you have people, I mean, they're young and they've just heard about different things that I consider pop culture and they're hearing about it for the first time. That's that perspective that makes me feel even a decade older. It's like every time I hear something out of a young person's mouth, I'm just floored.

SPEAKER_01 2:58

And then the fact that a lot of young people don't know, like they wouldn't know what it meant by if we say we're afraid stoning it. They wouldn't know what it meant to, if I can have this burger today, I'll gladly pay you on Tuesday. Hey, wimpy. I mean, this little references like that, it's gone. It's l it's dying with us.

SPEAKER_00 3:17

Yeah, I feel even older. Some of our trivia questions at work come around things like that, around like who was the one that ate spinach to be strong. So we're talking about Popeye. It's like all of a sudden I'm relating to these people more that are 70, 80, 90 years old. That scares me. Oh my god, I'm 90.

SPEAKER_01 3:34

I know. Mentally we might as well be because we know are we just more entertained by our parent entertainment to where we learn the pop culture for a couple of generations, not just ours. We know theirs too.

SPEAKER_00 3:48

Right. And I feel that way. I feel like I know some music from every decade, not just from where I work. I had older parents and I loved my mother's albums. So I was listening to music from the 40s and 50s, you know, when I was younger, where I feel like maybe I'm wrong, but I feel like the younger generation now isn't as concerned about the past or history or music or movies or different things. It's crazy. Like I know I watch so much with my mom. You know, Casablanca and I hated Gone with the Wind. That's fuckers like four hours long. But The Wizard of Oz, you know, that was something we watched annually. That was like it would come on regular TV every year, and it was a big deal. You know, these kids know Wicked, but they never read the book. If they'd have gone by the book, it'd have been rated R. Maybe I'm the one that's out of touch. I don't want to think that. Are we? I don't know. I didn't know about the backrooms. That movie that was out that was such a big deal. My grandkids went to see it. Oh. You know Siren Head? Mm-mm. Okay, I'll have to tell you about that one later.

SPEAKER_01 4:43

And see, I'm not connected with the younger generation because Well, that's my grandkids. That's why I know.

SPEAKER_00 4:48

Otherwise, I wouldn't have a clue.

SPEAKER_01 4:50

So I'm just like, I don't know what any of that you're talking about. I know Barney and Ren and Stimpy and Oh, yeah, okay. You know, those things that the kids kind of, you know, gravitated toward as oh the Nickelodeon shows. Bananas and pajamas and Oh my gosh. It's just wild. Life is hard.

SPEAKER_00 5:11

It really is. I don't know. After watching Romey and Michelle, I want to go back to like the 80s. Of course, I think that movie came out in 91. I'm not positive. I'd have to look that up and do my research. But I just I don't see.

SPEAKER_01 5:21

The good thing is there's a new Rome and Michelle coming, right? There is. Yeah. No, that's why I wanted to go back and watch that one. Yeah. I'd never seen it. Is it the same characters?

SPEAKER_00 5:31

Is it a younger generation? Yes, and a lot of the same actors from the original. We're gonna watch that.

SPEAKER_01 5:38

Well, because I caught up now. So we have to watch it. We will. We have to watch it. And we'll come back and we'll talk about that when we do.

SPEAKER_00 5:45

When you were younger, did you think people with money were special? There was something different about them, or did you want that life?

SPEAKER_01 5:51

I think when I was younger, I would be jealous because they had nicer things. You know, in my head. I thought, oh, you know, I don't have that name brand this or that name brand that. I had everything I needed.

SPEAKER_00 6:03

Right, I did too. And I've never been about name brands so much. It's never bothered me. I remember being in high school and my mom would go to Bloomingdale's, buy me sweatshirts and things. Don't you know I'd cut 'em. I'd cut them so they were spiky looking at the bottom or cut off one sleeve and she would just be livid. Ah, but it was the eighties. I had to get my outfit. It was the eighties and you were the eighties. Doing your thing, but yeah, I'm just But I remember wanting to go after a guy who had a car, you know, maybe back then. That was like a big deal.

SPEAKER_01 6:32

Yeah, because you wanted some wheels to get around. Yeah. Maybe we gotta take you where you want to go. I feel like everything is different.

SPEAKER_00 6:38

It is my way of thinking as I've gotten older.

SPEAKER_01 6:41

I mean, that's the course of aging and getting more mature in living life. You know, I see all the time about young people. Well, they're not old and bitter yet. Right, it's coming. It's coming, it's coming, it's coming.

SPEAKER_00 6:52

So they can't see things how we see them. Right. I feel like some people have so much more drive than I ever had, and I'm not naive. I mean, I get that, you know, it takes money to live. You have to be able to eat. So many people take up so much time working, they can't enjoy it or they can't enjoy life. I see that. But I do feel that people are reaching for something and that are there's certain people out there that keep reaching for something and they hit a certain level and then have to reach for more, so they spend their whole entire life just never happy. Right. I see that so much. They're just never happy, and and that's sad. It is sad. I know I'm my happiest when I'm cozy and got something scary on. Of course, one day I'll get another cat. It'll come. Yeah, I know.

SPEAKER_01 7:30

I do miss a dog. But I mean, I get that because we're animal people, and that's part of what makes us happy and gives us companionship, things like that. We will get there. We will get there. We will. We gotta quit saying we're old and life is over, and we gotta start saying it's not over. We gotta start saying this is who we are and this is what we're doing. This is it. We're living, living it.

SPEAKER_00 7:52

I mean, I do feel fulfilled in it. I look crazy right now. I know, because tomorrow's my mammogram. Yeah. Because you're living. I'm living. You live. Checking it out to keep living there. Or I'm having them looked at so I can keep living. You can keep living. Life is short. That's a oh, that's a perspective thing. The other day we were putting it to how many years ahead? In 15 years, I'll be 70. But 15 years ago, I was just turning 40. I was coming out of my 30s. That math sounds wrong. 15 years from now, I will be 70 fucking years old. So then that just means the next 15 years have to be the best years of our lives. I wonder how bitter I'll be at 70 if I live it out. No.

SPEAKER_01 8:30

We're gonna make it so fun the next 15 years. When we get to 70, we're gonna be like, hell yeah, we did it. We'll be in here podcasting and talking about, well, here we are. We'll be crazy. Oh my god, we'll be crazy. Remember that one podcast where we were talking about perspectives and we were talking about 15 years away from probably like no.

SPEAKER_00 8:48

Here we are. About where you remember splunking. Or do we have never talked about splunking? Yes, we have.

SPEAKER_01 8:53

We are. Oh my Jesus. I know we had a whole conversation. You know, still ain't got no chicken soup. We're remembering shit we don't remember. I still ain't got no cream of chicken soup, don't. You didn't go get it or order it? No. Are you trying to make something with it? I was trying to, but no, I ain't. Only 70 years, that's what this podcast is about. Are you got some cream of chicken soup? I know.

SPEAKER_00 9:12

You'll still be asking about that with that wine glass in your hand. Enjoying every minute of it. Cheers! Are you out of vodka? Oh, we still have fireball in there, don't we? Unless you drank it. I do not, I will not drink your fireball. Oh no. That was a good one. Are you? Well, thank you. Yeah, I can say I tried it. I do like the cinnamon. I mean, it's okay because it's not real apple-y. You don't like the cinnamon at all, do you? Maybe if it was in more apple juice. You know, I'm one of those. I hate cider, I hate apple juice. I don't drink either one of those. When you were little, did you just want to get married? Did you have it in your head where you wanted to wear like the pillowcase on your head like what the fuck are you talking about up on our head? What? No. Or make it like a bridal veil.

SPEAKER_01 9:48

Oh no, no, no. I don't think so. I definitely wanted to get married. I knew I want to be a mom. I didn't want to turn out like it turned out, but I'm happy now.

SPEAKER_00 9:57

See, that's a perspective thing as we get older. But when I was little, you know, raised a mom, dad, kids. And now as I got older, I love seeing dads with their little girl. Those little girls are dressed better than any other kid out there. You know, I'm all about it. You know, after losing Scott, if you can find somebody that loves you no matter what, I say go for it. And I wasn't raised that way. You know, that's a perspective thing to wear, this is what you're raised, this is how it is. And it's they see it's a once in a lifetime. Sometimes it is. But sometimes it's not. Why are you looking at me when you say that? Because you find you a man eventually. Maybe one day. I don't know. Maybe I'm what what do they call it? Happily single? Happily. Content. You know, there probably is more happiness out there. I admit I miss somebody to play chess with, and I miss somebody to laugh with every now and then or watch a scary movie, like, ew, that's gross. That's me, except I don't play chess. Oh, that's okay, but I can say, ooh, that's gross to you. Yeah, you can say ew, that's gross.

SPEAKER_01 10:47

If I'm even looking.

SPEAKER_00 10:49

I would love to get you to watch the mummy, but I know that's pretty bad. It's free. It's on HBO.

SPEAKER_01 10:53

God damn it.

SPEAKER_00 10:54

It is on HBO. I'm trying to buy myself some more time. That's okay. We'll watch from tonight. You know, talking about perspective. I saw something online the other day about people who used to love to like go to concerts in these big crowded places. Now they can't handle like two people in the aisle at the grocery store.

SPEAKER_01 11:08

Do you feel the same way? I feel the same way, yeah. I don't want to do the crowds. I don't want to be anywhere where it takes me longer than just a few minutes to get to the bathroom. And once I'm to the bathroom, just a few minutes to get in the stall. That's all I have is a few minutes. So it's more so. So wherever you go, you need a clear bathroom. I need a clear bathroom. Yeah, where I used to wait in line and for the bathroom and many, many other things. Yeah. So waiting in line and enjoying the crowds, enjoying people watching, and and now I'm just like, mm-mm. Why is that? I don't know. Because I think maybe because entertainment is so easy at to do at home.

SPEAKER_00 11:40

That could be from the people. There's more people too, and I think that's part of it. Like when I was little and we'd go to Disney World, I don't remember the crowds being like they are now. This crap of waiting three hours to ride a ride is ridiculous.

SPEAKER_01 11:52

Yeah, I couldn't do it now. I wouldn't do it now.

SPEAKER_00 11:54

No. Let's start with the sun. And then you can ride like two. Even with express passes and things now, because everybody's buying them, it kind of defeats the purpose.

SPEAKER_01 12:04

Yeah, yeah, that's one of those things. No, I don't want to wait in line. I mean, if I'm out shopping and it's a holiday weekend, I'm the one who chose to go out in the madness of the craziness of um, I'm gonna stand in line. If I don't want to stand in line, then I'll go somewhere where I know it's not gonna be that busy. I mean, it's the same way with food. How long's the line? No. I still like a mall at Christmas time. Gosh, I still have not been to the mall of Georgia. Which is crazy.

SPEAKER_00 12:27

I haven't either, not yet. I'll record hold out till Christmas. Or I won't even be here this Christmas.

SPEAKER_01 12:30

Oh, well, there's another Christmas that get to not go.

SPEAKER_00 12:33

There you go.

SPEAKER_01 12:33

I think on my 10-year anniversary, I'll go into the mall of Georgia. 10-year anniversary of living near it.

SPEAKER_00 12:38

Normally the stuff we say is pretty out there and pretty funny, but I saw something that kind of hit close, I think. It says, I don't want more, I want less. Less rushing, less stressing, less striving, so there's more room to simply be and to enjoy the little things with the people I love. That's precious. I know. I'd rather that than anything else. That's precious. Let's do that. I think so. I think that's a plan.

SPEAKER_01 13:00

I love that. That's wonderful. That sounds like a good way to look at things. Love it.

SPEAKER_00 13:06

We appreciate more as we get older. That's true. I think so too. Like time with the kids and the grandkids or even just talking to them, and I get so excited, you know, just getting texts from them every day. Yeah. And luckily, as much as I say I hate technology all the time, it is easy to keep in contact. Right. You know, if I don't live down the street, it's easy to stay in touch.

SPEAKER_01 13:23

Yeah, and it doesn't seem like I'm gone. Yeah. I love that. I know you're taking notes on some other stuff that um we were talking about with perspectives. What's another dinger we have in there? Anything? I don't know. I guess I was drinking and thinking pretty deep last night.

SPEAKER_00 13:35

I'm not sure. Talk about perspective, like it feels like all that's real is right now. Do you ever think of that? Like we have our memories and they must have happened. And if you talk to other people that were around at that time, they share the memories. So if you do have somebody that shares memories, it must have really happened.

SPEAKER_01 13:50

Yeah. What the hell? I think you're doing more philosophy than perspectives. Because I'm like, what in the world? I don't even know what to say that. Sure. I don't I know.

SPEAKER_00 14:02

I don't know. I feel like I try to live in the present, but then the present presents the past. Oh my god, I sound like little Edie Beale. When she's talking about the the the lines of the past and the present cross or something, and don't shake your head at me like that. I'm telling you what's the truth.

SPEAKER_01 14:18

I know. I'm so glad we take notes for this show.

SPEAKER_00 14:20

Well, I didn't do very well last night. Normally I make a pretty good outline and I joke around that I make a good one and we don't follow it. Yeah, that's true. So now here's some shit on a piece of paper that I I fucking don't know. Why did I write the word games? Um that has nothing to do with this. Why would I write games? Uh babies? I mean, that's a perspective. Some people like, oh, that's one. You know, the magazines that used to come out and they showed like a pregnant mom and she was so happy, you know, with her hands on her belly. I was not that person. Both of my pregnancies were miserable. I was miserable. It was I made everybody around me miserable, I'm sure. That's fantastic. Yeah, that's just something that no hemorrhoids is hurting.

SPEAKER_01 14:58

I know. You're supposed to forget all that stuff though, so the world makes you want another one. That's crazy. The mom fog and the mom brain, so you can't remember the bad stuff. So you're like, let's do that again. I had a cesarean with the first one.

SPEAKER_00 15:11

So I could have sat there and stabbed a fork in my leg and not felt anything, but that second one, oh, that was miserable. The pain was awful.

SPEAKER_01 15:18

It makes you wonder, how in the hell?

SPEAKER_00 15:20

And you can tell young people, you know, this is what it's like, but they'll do it anyway.

SPEAKER_01 15:24

They're gonna do it. They gotta figure it out.

SPEAKER_00 15:25

We all did. Think everybody was born at one time. I'm I guess that's why I wrote that down. Unless you're hatched. I could have been. You might have. Why did I write car trips?

SPEAKER_01 15:34

Car trips. Perspectives of car trips. Is that are you sure you're reading today's topic? This is bad. It is bad.

SPEAKER_00 15:44

And you know we gotta leave it in because important anyway.

SPEAKER_01 15:47

That's some bad notes over there.

SPEAKER_00 15:48

Bad note taken. That's not even my normal pen, I can tell. I must have grabbed a pen out of this. Look at this scribble.

SPEAKER_01 15:54

Your normal pen can't write.

SPEAKER_00 15:56

I know. We're gonna have to take a picture of this page and post it on Facebook just for fun because I don't know what the hell. Maybe somebody can decipher my screen.

SPEAKER_01 16:03

You got doodles on there and what the hell? What is this? Mm-hmm.

SPEAKER_00 16:08

It says now. Now. Well, Stacy recently bought me a bottle of fireball, which was very sweet, but I I don't want any more. I don't want any more. I can't handle it. Yeah, obviously I can't handle it.

SPEAKER_01 16:18

I know it is so fun because I know you like it, and then it's fun while we're doing it, and then it's not the next day. No, it's not.

SPEAKER_00 16:24

I had to get up and go for a mammogram this morning. I tried to go to lunch and I couldn't even finish one beer. I gave it back to the girl and she was so sweet, she didn't even um charge me for it. I was like, something's just not feeling right. I can't handle this. I went ahead and ate my salmon and came home. That's funny. You always talk about the hair of the dog. You pay, you pay. Yeah, I did. Evidently I did.

SPEAKER_01 16:46

Why would I do that before I had to get up and go for a mammogram? I don't know. I don't even think you drank that much. I don't think I did either. But I wasn't paying attention. You know, I counting is rude. Well, I'm we've established that.

SPEAKER_00 16:58

Well, I'm not drinking today. Tomorrow I'm going to the movie.

SPEAKER_01 17:00

Okay.

SPEAKER_00 17:01

So I'm gonna behave.

SPEAKER_01 17:02

I know when you got a movie coming up that it's your first time going to the movie alone. Alone. So you're doing it.

SPEAKER_00 17:09

Got it going on. What are you going to see? Evil Dead Burn. Oof. I know. The one that made you freak out during the preview.

SPEAKER_01 17:19

I'm sure I'll listen to your preview just because I think your horror movie previews are fun. Reviews. Reviews are fun. Yeah, I can't. You don't want to go?

SPEAKER_00 17:27

You can't stand your mind. Do you work tomorrow?

SPEAKER_01 17:29

Yeah. Locked in, locked and loaded. Gotta work. I know. Did that on purpose?

SPEAKER_00 17:34

I said, hey, boss, don't let me uh Brendo try and make me do something.

SPEAKER_01 17:38

Yeah, I don't want to do nothing.

SPEAKER_00 17:39

Well, I guess we went off the rails, so we do need to wrap this up. Let's wrap it up. I need to make a better outline for the next one. I don't know what happened. I'm sorry. I apologize to everybody out there. I have no idea what happened.

SPEAKER_01 17:50

Well, and they have to tell me when we do have a decent outline, we don't use it, so I think that's fine.

SPEAKER_00 17:54

But it's funny because they're usually neat and I don't know what this is.

SPEAKER_01 17:58

Well, we'll try to figure it out and um Okay. Come back next time on Let's Line with Brenda and Stacy. Bye.